‘Violence Against Women Is Not Our Culture’: The Men Of The Mosou

I have spent more than 15 years travelling around the world learning about the different forms of violence and discrimination against women and girls. I have come across domestic violence, rampant sexual harassment and blatant discrimination. I have learned about honour killings, slavery and ‘cultural’ ideas that deliberately deny women from having the same rights to education, work and freedom as men have.

Throughout these travels I have heard many voices speaking up to express their condemnation of this widespread violence and discrimination towards women.

However very few of these voices have been male.

In fact, there seems to be a resounding silence from men throughout the world when it comes to speaking up against violence and discrimination against women.

Many men, it seems, believe that they should not speak up about against violence against women because to do so, would somehow make them not a man.

It’s as if the idea of a man wanting women to have the same rights to protection, safety and opportunity as men do, is somehow a threat to their masculinity. As if their masculinity rests upon their ability to dominate, control and be violent towards women.

However, there are a few parts of the world where concepts of masculinity are not based on such ideas.

The Mosou are one of these groups of people.

They can be found living around the sparkling waters of Lugu Lake in the mountainous province of Yunan, China. Renowned for their matrilineal culture the Mosou carry their family line through the mother and the grandmother is considered to be the most important person in the family.

Relationships between men and women are centered around love and both men and women are free to choose their partners and change them as they wish. There is also uniquely, no requirement for men or women to get married. Rather the Mosou engage in what they call walking marriages where a man and woman may have a relationship together without formally being married, much like the relationships between a boyfriend and girlfriend.

I spent 10 days with the Mosou, travelling around the beautiful waters of Lugu lake talking to men and women about Mosou culture and the role of women within it.

What I found was a culture where relationships between men and women are based on mutual respect, love and caring. I also learned that violence against women is not allowed.

What I found was the most impressive about the Mosou, was the …read more

Source:: The Huffington Post – UK Tec


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