No one can dispute that being a parent is the toughest job ever. There are mums and dads the world over doing their absolute best to grow their offspring. Like tending a fragile plant, we nurture and protect. We want nothing more but for our children to be happy, healthy, and safe. So what kind of a mother would want to intentionally hurt her child?
Immediately after being diagnosed with breast cancer, I had visions of my children and thoughts of dying. Then, another bombshell hit me; the prospect of having to tell my three children my awful news. Why would I even contemplate breaking it to them? How could I tell my impressionable 14 year old son and my innocent 10 year old daughters that I might soon be leaving them forever, or that their mum was going to be very unwell at the very least? Every time I thought about it, the lump in my throat would swell.
1. The Feelings of Guilt and Betrayal
Telling them would be nothing less than an act of betrayal. I was supposed to be the one they could trust, the person they could always rely on and the one to make them feel loved and looked after, yet here I was, feeling guilt ridden because telling them would surely crush them. My maternal instincts were saying I’d deny them their childhood happiness. I was convinced it would mess with their minds and ruin their lives.
2. Your Fears Become Their Fears
I was challenged by my own fears and concerns so how could I possibly allay my children’s fears if they were to see how scared and vulnerable I was? Surely, if they saw me sad and worried, they would feel the same way. The thought of dying and leaving them was too painful …read more
Source:: The Huffington Post – UK Lifestyle