“Relate” is the root word of relationship. In order to relate, we must be good communicators. Yet, poor communication between parents and their children is still one of the biggest complaints I hear about in my family counselling practice.
Isn’t it ironic that we learn to start talking by 18 – 24 months, but we are never formally taught effective communication? Unless your own parents were highly skilled and modelled good communication (a rarity, I might add), you probably never learned one of life’s most critical skills.
Isn’t it ironic that we learn to start talking by 18 – 24 months, but we are never formally taught effective communication?
Well, it’s never too late to learn! Here are six tips for those of us who missed the early training. Try tackling these to help improve your communication abilities with the kiddos.
Listen more, talk less
Parents are especially guilty of over-talking because we underestimate what our kids know and how much they can contribute to a conversation. We get very excited about teaching them and giving them instructions, but we don’t ask what they know, think, or have an opinion about.
The next time you are planning a weekend away, ask your kids for some ideas of where they would like to go or what they would like to see and do. When your child has a bad day at school and you want them to open up and tell you about it, just listen and offer a free space for them to speak. If we interrupt with interrogating questions, or try to solve their problems for them, we inadvertently clam them up.
The important part of listening to our children is to help them express their feelings and to make them feel understood.
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Source:: The Huffington Post – Canada Travel